How to Use Games to Impact Kids in 10 Easy Steps

Children playing musical chairs-852286Nothing involves/engages kids like games.  Nothing.  Kids are wired to play, not listen, not watch.  Play.  They want to be involved.  They want to do stuff.  You can show kids the latest, cool movie, but if you stand to the side and offer to play a fun, exciting game with them, they will choose to play the game.  Why?  Because that’s the way kids are.  They crave the opportunity to simply be a kid.  That means “PLAY.”

The world is wobbly.  It is changing so fast that it’s disruptive to everything.  Kids feel it.  They know there’s trouble.  They hear us talk.  They see glimpses on the news.  They know something’s up.  Nothing enrages me more than a kid having their childhood stolen from them.  Kids shouldn’t have to worry about bullying, the economy, their parents splitting up, war, sickness, and on and on and on and on and on.  But they do.  Playing a simple game usually/always gets their mind off of their fears for a few minutes.  Why should we play games with kids?  I just gave it to you.

Competition is a fact, Jack.  Life is competitive.  You better learn how to win, and you better learn how to lose.  Both will happen to everyone.  Often.  The world is not a cushy place.  Everything, not just sports, has an element of competition: job hunting, dating, working, driving (sometimes), getting into the shortest checkout lane, school, etc.  Is it crazy?  Yes.  Is it out-of-control?  Yes.  Is it just plain wrong?  Probably.  But you don’t deal with the world you want.  You deal with the world you have.  Competition is woven into the fabric of life.  Games–done right–create an out-of-harm’s-way place to learn that.

Make games a little competitive and a lot of fun.  If you make them a lot competitive and a little fun, you destroy the benefit.



When you keep winning and losing in perspective, games offer a valuable lesson.  They allow kids to push themselves in a safe environment.  Life requires that they learn how to win and do it with grace.  Life requires that they learn how to lose and do it with dignity.  Games help train a child for living.  Every one of them will win sometimes; every one of them will lose sometimes.  Competition is not evil.  Even Paul, the apostle, used a little competition to motivate Christians.  “I have been boasting to the churches in Macedonia that you in Greece were ready to send an offering a year ago.  In fact, it was your enthusiasm that stirred up many of the Macedonian believers to begin giving” (2 Corinthians 9:2 NLT).  Paul was motivating the Macedonians to be givers based on what the Corinthians had done.  He used one group to motivate the other.  They did it; and you know you can do it, too.  Good competition does that.  It motivates one group based on what another group has done…or is doing.  The Corinthian team did it!  Let’s see what the Macedonian team can do!

In no particular order, here are some tips for making games fun while keeping the competition in perspective:

1.  Divide the room into two sides.  Give each side a team name.  Dividing the room with a center aisle or rope down the middle is helpful/important/critical.  It just works much better that way.

2.  Don’t play games that take any real athletic ability.  That way if/when you lose, nobody cares.  Really, does anyone think it’s a big deal when you are last to shake a cotton ball off your nose that is stuck there with Vaseline?

3.  Make the game urgent.  Time it.  Make it frantic.  Use a stopwatch, a clock, hourglass, something.

4.  Explain it carefully.  Nobody gets excited about a game they don’t understand.  Explain the rules.  Make it clear.

5.  Choose kids wisely.  If a small kid can play it, pick him.  If a shy kid never raises her hand, ask her if she wants to play.  Don’t choose the same kids over and over.

6.  Give points to the winning team.  Points are free, so you can give away lots of them.  “This next game is worthy 25,000 points!”

7.  Crank the music.  Play something fast.  Use upbeat Christian music or one of the Kidz Blitz’ parodies of classic rock.

8.  Start the music first.  Start the music BEFORE you start the game.  Let the music draw you into the game.  Hearing the music gets your heart pumping so you’re ready to start.

9.  Don’t make winning any bigger than it already is.  It’s already a big deal, so you can tamp it down a little by saying, “By a little bit I guess this one goes to the blue team!”  That’s better than “Wow! It looks like the blue team has smashed the green team again!!!”

10.  Announce by name the kids who are playing.  Make a bigger deal out of playing than winning.  “This is Karen.  Karen is ten years old and has a dog named ‘Mia.” Let’s give it up for Karen!”

How to Include Shy Kids

86311225.sZKduHIxBe careful how you get shy kids involved.  Breaking the shy/fun barrier is not about kids merely having a lot of fun.  It’s about breaking down the walls that will allow them to have fun and receive from God!  Breaking the fun barrier is when you can help a hesitant child participate in something fun that nudges them out of their comfort…and they like it.


Lots of kids want to participate, but they are too shy to raise their hand and take the step to volunteer.  Some have experienced failure in the past.  Some are told they are not skilled at anything.  Some are shy by nature.  And some are self-conscious.


Kids need your help to break past this barrier.  It is critical to their development that they learn to try something new.  They need to build a mental bank account of successes (when something goes right) and good failures (when something goes wrong but is still OK).  These concepts are applicable in large groups, small groups, or one-on-one.  The best stime to put these ideas to good use is from the moment kids enter your kids ministry area.


Here are some suggestions for helping kids break the shy/fun barrier in your children’s ministry.

  • Allow shy kids the space to not participate at first.  Give them a couple of weeks to assess what your children’s ministry is all about.
  • Make eye contact with him in fun ways.  Make a face.  Smile.  Let him know he is not invisible.
  • Talk to her.  Without asking questions, have a conversation offering your thoughts on the fun that’s going on in the group or her purple shoes.
  • Let him hold something.  Holding an object is a safe way for shy kids to participate.  It helps them take a next step out of their shells even if they are only holding something in their seats.
  • Use a shy kid’s name as an example from the stage without asking them to do anything.
  • Compliment or praise a shy kid when others can hear you.

Here are some things you NEVER do to manipulate a child into participating:

  • Never ask her to answer a question out loud.
  • Never ask him to pray out loud.
  • Never make him the center of attention.
  • Never exclude her as a ploy to participate or as punishment.


Part of a full spectrum ministry to kids requires that you help kids grow in their confidence and social skills.  Sometimes small, simple steps can go a long way.